i’m currently experiencing this with my grandmother, however, its not the first time i’m experiencing it. it’s the hardest thing to do. sit and watch and as we may feel do nothing. but it’s not nothing, being there and reminding them they aren’t alone is probably the only thing we can do for them. it’s also one of the best things you can do for yourself. knowing you were there makes the after easier. and the grief, it never fully goes away but neither do all the sacred memories you talked about. and you may think that this is the part you’re gonna remember most but it’s not. you will remember all the good times, the hugs, and the memories you created growing up. it’s when you remember those things, the grief comes but more in a way of i’m glad i was able to experience with them and a little of i miss them. just don’t stop sharing her story, talking about her, remembering her. it’s the way you keep them alive
This was beautiful. Seriously. Thank you for taking the time to write this because I needed to hear it. “Being there” can feel so small in moments like this, but you’re right — it’s everything. And I hope when all of this pain settles one day, the memories and love are what stay the loudest.
This is a beautifully raw, poignant write up, Andrew. I lost my mother to cancer 24 hours ago so im grappling with that grief and this article gave me words I haven’t been able to express myself so thank you 🥹
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. And thank you for sharing this with me. That’s exactly why I wrote it — because this kind of grief is so hard to put into words until you’re living it yourself. Sending you so much love right now.
i’m currently experiencing this with my grandmother, however, its not the first time i’m experiencing it. it’s the hardest thing to do. sit and watch and as we may feel do nothing. but it’s not nothing, being there and reminding them they aren’t alone is probably the only thing we can do for them. it’s also one of the best things you can do for yourself. knowing you were there makes the after easier. and the grief, it never fully goes away but neither do all the sacred memories you talked about. and you may think that this is the part you’re gonna remember most but it’s not. you will remember all the good times, the hugs, and the memories you created growing up. it’s when you remember those things, the grief comes but more in a way of i’m glad i was able to experience with them and a little of i miss them. just don’t stop sharing her story, talking about her, remembering her. it’s the way you keep them alive
This was beautiful. Seriously. Thank you for taking the time to write this because I needed to hear it. “Being there” can feel so small in moments like this, but you’re right — it’s everything. And I hope when all of this pain settles one day, the memories and love are what stay the loudest.
This is a beautifully raw, poignant write up, Andrew. I lost my mother to cancer 24 hours ago so im grappling with that grief and this article gave me words I haven’t been able to express myself so thank you 🥹
I’m so incredibly sorry for your loss. And thank you for sharing this with me. That’s exactly why I wrote it — because this kind of grief is so hard to put into words until you’re living it yourself. Sending you so much love right now.